Resolution or End of Round STEP NUMBER 9
You will either come to a solution, agree
to try alternative solutions for a period of time or after repeating
the entire process come to a stand still. In case of a stand still
you may want to seek professional help finding solutions. Unresolved
conflict is not healthy for your relationship.
Step number 9
We agree, and we have a solution.
Go to step number 10
Agree to experiment with a solution. Set
a specific time period for trying a solution specifying what you
have agreed will happen at the end of that time.
Go to step number 10
We cannot reach an agreement.
Go to step number 1
Clarification STEP NUMBER 10
Hearing your partner clearly state your
agreements is affirming and can avoid misunderstandings. Affirming
your success is important, seeing it in black and white is even more
affirming. Step number 10
Repeat the agreement to each other
making sure you both have the same understanding
Write your agreement in your
Relationship Journal so you can review it in the future.
Congratulate each other.
These guidelines for conflict resolution
offer you a structured goal and quite a challenge. Here are some
ways you can begin to ease into using these guidelines.
Print two copies of these guidelines and
keep them handy. Actually go get this list and holding the paper
continue your conflict following the steps. I do realize this is
easier to say than do. :-)
Have fun with them. Chose sides on some
issue of little or no consequence and practice presenting your
perspective using these steps.
Trade perspectives (above) and practice
presenting your views.
Conflict will begin to take on less of a
personal aspect as you practice these steps and even play with
them a bit.
Have you noticed
The Half Hour Meetings incorporated
nearly all of these steps?
And that applying the Principle of
Prosperity in time of conflict comes quite close to a spiritual
challenge?
A pattern in communication? It's Circular
Communication, it's a key, Coming Soon.
