of A Healthy Person
Having a common frame of reference is
certainly a good place to start on journey of knowing each other.
Here is one perspective.
accept themselves fully, even while wanting to change parts of
themselves, there is a basic self-love and self-regard, which is
carefully nurtured and purposely expanded.
accept others as they are without trying to change others to meet
in touch with their feelings and attitudes about every aspect of
their life, including their sexuality.
cherish every aspect of themselves: Their personality, their
appearance, their beliefs and values, their body, their interests
and accomplishments. They validate self, rather than search for a
relationship to give a sense of self worth.
self-esteem is great enough that they can enjoy being with others,
especially with some one in a romantic relationship, and that the
other is fine just as they are. They do not need to be needed in
order to feel worthy.
themselves to be open and trusting with appropriate people. They
are not afraid to be known at a deeply personal level, but they
also do not expose themselves to the exploitation of those who are
not interested in their well-being.
question, "Is this relationship good for me? Does it enable me to
grow into all I am capable of being? How do I feel about me when
Iím with them?"
relationship is destructive, they are able to let go of it without
experiencing disabling depression. They have a circle of
supportive friends and healthy interests to see them through
their own serenity above all else. All the struggles, drama, and
chaos of the past has lost its appeal. They are protective of
self, their health, and well-being.
that a relationship, in order to work, must be between partners
share similar values, interests, and goals and who each have
capacity for intimacy. They also know that they are worthy of the
best that life has to offer.